Your Love Life Coach

Just how close to that edge will you step up to. How willing are you to roll the dice? After all you’ve seen and read, are you still convinced it’s “no big deal.” Let me tell you, it’s a huge deal! A big deal that won’t go away. Sadly many men won’t change until they get that wake up call from an incident or getting caught or have an awakening. Here’s a hint, have the awakening it’s less painful. If words like understanding, empathy, compassion, fairness, equality aren’t in your lexicon then that may be a sign that you may need to do some work on yourself. Follow me on Instagram  

Why is the # metoo movement important? Well, that amazing 10 year old just behind my shoulder is the reason why! Training young boys in ways that reflect honour and integrity, fairness and empathy, and I could go on and on. Men need good examples but just as important so do the young lions. Cultivating rich hearts and open minds so we can actually move away from where we are today. We talk so much about inclusion like transgender or LGBT that we can forget to include women here. Not just with fair wages or job opportunities but as equals in every sense, from their emotional might to owning their sexuality and feeling free enough to be exactly who they want to be without apology! This is my message of hope it only for women but for the young boys. To break the trend and make a difference not tomorrow but now!

This may be an odd choice of a word to explain a healthy relationship but when a man can "minister" to his love, he is caring for her in the most complete way. As the authority on the subject of "her" he can attend to her emotional, mental and physical needs. He will know where to safeguard her and caution her while creating a safe and secure environment for her to simply "be". He will focused on her well being and at the ready to fight for their love. Can you imagine how rich this would feel, how satisfying?

I am uniquely myself. I carry with me a very strong sense of self. With this comes a knowing and understanding of who I am. My emotions and mental landscape are known to me quite well for I walk them daily.  I crave to know and understand. An awareness of my own history keeps me grounded and close to my inner home. I will take snapshots of moments, deliberately stopping to take in what I am feeling in that moment. The senses filled with what I feel, see, smell and hear. This inner strength has allowed me to speak into the lives of other and inspire and encourage. This has also allowed me to love in a way that surpasses tangible evidence. Expressing to extreme the motivations in my heart and soul. #healthymehealthywe

When a man learns to hear with his inner ear, his understanding and ability to communicate will increase tenfold. It is when we, as men only hear, that we misjudge, react in the wrong way. Begin to exercise your inner ear and hear the heart of your love. Take small steps and you will see the impact and the results will be a harmonious relationship, where you can effortlessly navigate the intricacies of the female being you so desperately love and cherish. She will regard and esteem you and be more than you ever imagined.

Pulling me deeper down, her love surrounded me. Like a diver, I equalize and submit. Into the blue she brings me. Into her reef of color and hidden beauty she treats me. I am at her mercy and with grace she replenishes my oxygen. She is my shining sea.

Are these the hands that grasp this timeless instrument. Upon which I must play, my conscious knowledge spent. To hang these notes upon, the chord that binds me to. Expressing to extreme, uncomprehended truth

Never let a day go by without saying "I love you." Place these words gently on your loves ears, like  ornaments on a mantle. Watch the smile turn into a kiss. Never forget what true love can accomplish in the life of the one who means the world to you.

The need for healthy relationships is great.  A sense of the disconnect and disanence invades all.  Who will stand against the apathy and show a better way.

A new day has dawned. Though the skies are opened up, showering rain down on me. My heart is full to overflowing.  My mind is clear and the landscape of my emotions are a beautiful meadow. May your day bring a new unseen color to your life that you can paint with.